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Don’t Put Yourself in Isolation

IMG_0027After I brought my daughter home from the hospital, my world became way too small.

At first it felt luxurious to be home. Going back and forth to the NICU multiple times a day was exhausting, and I was so happy that I could spend an entire day in my pajamas and not have to be at the hospital for the first time in months. My daughter, born at 28 weeks gestation, had spent 68 days in the NICU as she grew from 2-and-a-half pounds to just under 5 pounds. Before that, I was on bedrest in the hospital for two weeks due to chronic placental abruption. I was so ready to be at home and create my own routine, not one set by NICU rules.

Unfortunately, in leaving the NICU, I left behind a huge form of socialization. I had come to know the nurses, our doctors, and many other NICU families quite well, and suddenly I found myself very isolated at home. Not only was I tethered to the house because my daughter was attached to an oxygen concentrator, but I also spent most of my time in just two rooms; the two where her oxygen tube would reach.

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A Babysitter for Your Preemie? Yes, You Can!

How can I hire a babysitter for my preemie?

When Torran came home from the hospital, I didn't think I'd ever let go of him, much less someone else be his babysitter. In the NICU, my¬†emotions had a terrific bashing. Yet, the joy of coming home with my son was sometimes overshadowed by the … [Continue reading]

Including a Sibling in a NICU Stay


My heart was torn in two when I realized that my second child would be in the NICU for a long while. How could I possibly include his older sibling in a NICU stay? Now I had two children and I wanted to be with both of them at the same time. The NICU … [Continue reading]

Top Ways to Help a Loved One Through a NICU Stay

Our home away from home during our daughter's NICU stay.

Our world was turned upside down the day my water broke seven weeks too soon. We would have never made it through the next few months without the kindness, generosity, and overwhelming support of our friends, family, and complete strangers. When … [Continue reading]

Giving Back as a Way to Heal

Our Miracle Surviving Triplet

When you become pregnant, you expect to get cravings. You expect to be uncomfortable with swollen feet. And you expect to be pregnant for 40 weeks, or at least close to it. But when all doesn't go as plan, you end up hoping for a miracle. That was … [Continue reading]