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{Friday Feature} A Summer Called Angel

Meet Sola Olu who is the mother of two children born premature. She is the author of a memoir, The Summer Called Angel, and shares how she and her husband held on to hope for 7 months while their daughter weighing 1.15 ounces at birth was cared for in two NICUs, endured multiple complications, and is now a healthy, thriving 8 year old. By sharing her family’s journey with prematurity, she hopes to encourage fellow NICU moms and give hope.

What were the circumstances surrounding your child’s birth?

“My journey to motherhood began with a siren flashing, horn-blaring ambulance ride to a specialist hospital across town. Within a day, everything I had imagined for the birth of my child changed.” That is the start of my memoir–The Summer Called Angel–a story of hope on the journey through prematurity, but that is the circumstance surrounding the birth of my first child.

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Angel at one day old

I had gone in for a routine appointment the day that I turned 28 weeks. My blood pressure was high, fluctuating between 160/100 and 195/120. The hospital did not have a NICU for babies that young, and so I was transferred to a different hospital.

My daughter was delivered via emergency c-section that night. I was shocked. My whole family was shocked. My pregnancy up to that point had been uneventful.

I would also end up having a second pre-eclamptic pregnancy with my son being delivered at 33 weeks.

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A NICU Parent Survival Bag

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After birthing four babies, I could pack the "hospital bag" in my sleep. The NICU survival bag, however, was much harder to pack for my fifth child. It's like going on a trip and not knowing the schedule, the weather or when you're returning. … [Continue reading]

You ARE Ready to Bring Your Baby Home!

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May will always be a special month for me.  For most, May brings with it the end of the school year, vacation planning, and other events that mark summer’s arrival.  For me and my family, May holds a different meaning.  It marks the month we … [Continue reading]

Patience Is the Key

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One of the biggest lessons I have learned from having a preemie, our NICU stay, and even now at home is to have patience. Patience is something I have never really had but having preemies has definitely changed that. When I got pregnant with the … [Continue reading]

Not Delayed Enough: Navigating School for the First Time

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Like many parents of preemies, I have remained hyper-vigilant about the care and development of my surviving micropreemie triplets.  Early on we are taught how important Early Intervention is to ensure our babies hit their milestones as infants and … [Continue reading]

Embracing Delays For Our School Bound Preemie

Building for a brighter future

Our son Jayden has accomplished so much in his first three years. How he has grown as an explorer, learner, and social butterfly has been quite exciting. Since his second birthday, Jayden has been receiving therapy through Early Intervention, which … [Continue reading]

Am I A Mother?

Isabella 23 week preemie

This question echoed in my mind. In the days after my daughter’s premature birth, I often wondered if I could call myself a mother. It sounds a little silly now, but back then it was a very real question. I was unable to do motherly things like … [Continue reading]

{Printables} Mother’s Day in the NICU

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Mother's Day during or after a baby's stay in the neonatal intensive care unit is a milestone celebrated with joy and tears. So many emotions accompany the decision to have a child, to become a mother and to weather the storm that accompanies a … [Continue reading]

Ways to Celebrate the NICU mom on Mother’s Day

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From the moment I first laid eyes on my tiny one pounder baby girl, I wrestled with many emotions that caused me to question whether or not I deserved to be a mom. Of course, I did everything 'right'. I took prenatals, ate right, and followed the … [Continue reading]

NICU Heroes Award Recognizes Greatness

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Our NICU Journey Was Paved with Heroes I met many heroes during my son's NICU stay. From our fearless neonatologist who never gave up on my micro-preemie despite significant challenges, to respiratory therapists who helped my baby defy the … [Continue reading]