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{Professional Insight} Parenting Through the NICU and Beyond



The parents of the premature child face a host of challenges. From time on bed rest to a fast track of research and education as to how to assure the survival of and provision for an early arrival. From scrutinizing doctors’ reports to learning to read the infant’s cues and comfort ranges, you are invited to showing up in real time as never before.

Some preemies will be born with developmental, sensory or physical challenges and may need the help of occupational, physical, or speech therapists in equipping them for the world and the many vicissitudes of living here. Parents will inevitably learn from and work alongside these professionals, when utilized. Some may be extraordinarily intelligent or gifted, as was Einstein or Churchill, Darwin or Newton, and come into the world in a hurry with an insatiable energy for life and all they were born to accomplish here. Siblings may feel some loss of both parents’ abiding presence and attention during hospital stays and through transition home.

The mission of ensuring the best for a new arrival to the NICU and life beyond is all consuming, eclipsing daily life and its demands (though they fail to disappear). Parenting the premature child and his siblings is at once daunting and a privilege.

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It’s Okay, Preemie Parent

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I remember the day Charlie was born like it was yesterday. I spent the ten days prior in the hospital hoping and waiting. However, nothing could prepare me for her birth at 26 weeks or for what was to follow. The day of her birth, no one explained … [Continue reading]

Elizabeth’s Story: Being a Preemie and Military Mom


My Story With the Christmas season coming around, it was a time of great joy and excitement. I'm a sailor with a baby girl on the way that just moved from a Naval Base in San Diego to a new area on orders and was expected to go to my new command's … [Continue reading]

{FB Chat} Overcoming Feeding Obstacles

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We had a great chat on Wednesday, June 25th with Julie Wahrenberger, a speech language pathologist with Spring Branch Speech Therapy. Julie discussed how to overcome feeding obstacles with your NICU baby. So if you missed it, check it out … [Continue reading]

Living in Two Worlds

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It's hard to live in two places at the same time. That's what it feels like when you are discharged from the hospital but your baby - that sweet little baby who has been a part of you for the past however many weeks - is still in the NICU. I tried … [Continue reading]