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Unique Ways to Support NICU Parents: Ideas for a NICU Care Basket

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Your family member or friend just had a preemie baby, and you are desperate to provide help and support wherever possible but aren’t quite sure where to start. The first weeks and sometimes months, while the baby is in the NICU, are very stressful for parents. One of the most thoughtful ways to support parents of a preemie is a NICU care basket – a gift basket or package you can deliver to the hospital or leave on their doorstep.

We went to the experts, NICU parent veterans, for ideas on what they would appreciate and what would help them the most during their preemie’s NICU stay. Individual circumstances must be given careful consideration, so pick and choose the best options if you’re preparing a NICU care basket, or even let NICU parents browse through the list and tell you what they would like the most.  

Gift Cards, Food, & Money

NICU parents overwhelmingly expressed that monetary items are the ones they need the most. Gift cards to the hospital cafeteria, gift cards to nearby restaurants, coffee shops, and pharmacies topped the chart. Visa gift cards were mentioned frequently for those non-store specific items that might need to be purchased during the hospital stay. Cash & rolls of quarters for vending machines, healthy snacks high in protein, fresh fruit, a reusable water bottle, and coffee thermos were additional items parents noted as necessities during their stay.

Care Calendars are an excellent way for families to receive home cooked meals and to include family and friends that want to help in other ways. Remember to always bring food over in disposable containers that do not need to be washed and returned.

Record-Keeping

NICU veterans remarked that a pretty journal and pen were essential to a NICU stay to document their experience. A notebook, calendar, or planner is helpful to hold valuable information from the hospital and keep track of appointments and significant dates. Many parents said a specialized NICU or preemie journal to mark those precious milestones would be thoughtful. We love this NICU journal from Every Tiny Thing ($14.95).

A camera to place by the preemie’s bedside was expressed as critical so nurses can take pictures while parents are not there. A gift certificate for a family photo session from a photographer willing to allow no expiration date gives something for the parents to look forward to when the NICU stay is over. Gift cards for digital prints, a premade baby scrapbook (just insert pictures), picture frames, stamps and stationery would also be appreciated.

Self-Care & Pampering

It is not uncommon for mothers of preemie children to put themselves on the backburner. Helping mom to feel as “normal” as possible is critical for her wellbeing and health. Travel essentials (toothbrush, toothpaste, face wash, deodorant, dry shampoo, brush, chapstick, gum, mints, Ibuprofen) and unscented (very) moisturizing lotion are great to add to a gift basket. Hand sanitizer is a critical addition to any gift basket, as well as a box or small packet of soft tissues for when those tears just won’t stop flowing.

An electric pump, hands free pumping bra, nipple cream, nipple gel ice packs, breast pads, and freezer-safe bottles or breast milk bags for expressed milk will come in very handy for NICU pumping sessions.

To make the NICU experience a little comfier, you might consider adding cozy socks, slippers, a robe (also helpful for kangaroo care), and a blanket. A soft travel pillow, eye mask, earbuds or headphones would come in handy during those long days or overnight stays.

Gift cards to iTunes for relaxing music and packets of calming tea can do wonders for mom’s spirits. If mom can get away for a bit, gift cards for massages, manicures, pedicures, and haircuts would be great to include. If the NICU mom prefers to stay close, a subscription to FabFitFun might lift her mood and take her thoughts away from the stress for just a moment. A sweet touch to include would be a mirror for her to see baby’s face during kangaroo care. Talk about melting mama’s heart to a puddle just seeing that sweet face up close!

Entertainment

Days in the NICU can seem to last forever. Paperback books to read, audio books (check out Audible), and magazines won this category for NICU veterans. Books on the NICU experience for parents and siblings, as well as books on preemie life after the NICU are welcomed additions. The NICU Now podcast, Hand to Hold’s free audio support series for NICU parents, can be listened to in the car or right by baby’s bedside. Playing cards, puzzles, or dominoes are great to pass the time and have a little bit of fun when visitors come.

On the Go

Many parents spend enormous amounts of time driving back and forth to the hospital, to take care of other children or tend to their home. Gift cards for gasoline, a hospital parking pass, money for a car rental, and a prepaid room at a nearby hotel are all items most of us would not think of but are daily struggles for NICU parents. Adding a compact bag to carry pumping supplies, or a cute travel bag for clothes would be a nice thought. Many NICU veterans also mentioned the need for phone chargers to keep at the hospital or in a travel bag.

To decrease the burden of caring for other siblings while the preemie is in the hospital, offer to babysit the children, hire someone to mow the grass, clean the house, and consider hiring a meal delivery service that provides ready to eat meals.

For the Baby

Parents love to see their new baby’s name around their NICU area. A cute handmade name sign for outside the isolette or bed or a personalized baby blanket are items parents enjoy receiving. If you know the baby can wear clothes, preemie-sized hats or socks and preemie clothing with snaps rather than zippers for tube and wire access are great additions to a gift basket. If the NICU allows, a small music player with gentle tunes to play at the baby’s bedside, a frame for a family picture near the baby’s bedside, and books to read to the baby are all great gifts that will bring comfort to both baby and parents.

Specialized

Parents with a baby in the NICU need support. They need a listening and nonjudgmental ear. They need hugs. They need to know they are not alone. Write thoughtful letters, inspirational quotes, or poems that parents can read when they are feeling down. Provide them with information on support groups that will match them with people that have been down the treacherous road they are on.

 

Now that you are armed with great ideas from parents that have lived through the NICU experience, you may want to take into account a few things before assembling your basket.

How early is the baby and is there a chance he/she won’t survive? If so, be very careful and don’t give baby clothes, nursery decorations, or anything that would emphasize the loss if the baby passed away.

Is the baby in an isolette or a crib? Some NICU facilities don’t allow clothes on preemies while they are in the isolette. Most of the time a baby in an open crib can wear clothes and hats, and possibly booties or socks.

Do either of the parents spend a lot of time at the hospital with the baby or do they work? Do they have other children that need care? If they spend a lot of time in the NICU, they will appreciate having things to do there like journaling and reading books. If they have are unable be in the NICU for extended periods, they may not need time-fillers. Regardless, either situation will benefit immensely from a maid service, a meal train, gift cards for quick meals, and cash.

As noted, every circumstance facilitates different needs, and every hospital has different sets of rules. If you are unsure, talk with the nurses about their policies and talk with the parents about their wishes. Rest assured, anything you put together is appreciated in their time of overwhelm.

For more information on NICU peer-to-peer support, please visit the Hand to Hold Support Page or call us toll-free: 1.855.424.6428 extension 712.

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