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A Babysitter for Your Preemie? Yes, You Can!

How can I hire a babysitter for my preemie?

Give yourself a break. Hire a babysitter for your preemie.

When Torran came home from the hospital, I didn’t think I’d ever let go of him, much less someone else be his babysitter. In the NICU, my emotions had a terrific bashing. Yet, the joy of coming home with my son was sometimes overshadowed by the ongoing stress of early preemie/special needs parenting. There were days when I felt like I couldn’t give any more of myself. That’s when my husband and I agreed, we needed a babysitter.

Bruce and I love going to the movies, and we used the NICU as glorified babysitting on three occasions (two of those occasions were to celebrate avoiding surgery). At home, there aren’t any medical professionals to watch your little one sleep and make sure he’s breathing. However, taking a break from my hyper-aware and medicalized parenting was as essential at home as it was in the NICU. Bruce and I needed it for ourselves and for the continued health of our relationship.

If you step away from your demanding environment, you’ll still have your life weighing on your mind. It never leaves you. A change in your daily routine or environment may help you cope. Certainly, you can reconnect with your partner or your inner self in a way that you can’t when you’re at home. For example, its hard to discuss your little ones’ unknown future when she is crying for food. I couldn’t feel romantic about my husband as I stared at the swelling over my son’s brain surgery site, waiting for it to fail.

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Including a Sibling in a NICU Stay


My heart was torn in two when I realized that my second child would be in the NICU for a long while. How could I possibly include his older sibling in a NICU stay? Now I had two children and I wanted to be with both of them at the same time. The NICU … [Continue reading]

Top Ways to Help a Loved One Through a NICU Stay

Our home away from home during our daughter's NICU stay.

Our world was turned upside down the day my water broke seven weeks too soon. We would have never made it through the next few months without the kindness, generosity, and overwhelming support of our friends, family, and complete strangers. When … [Continue reading]

Giving Back as a Way to Heal

Our Miracle Surviving Triplet

When you become pregnant, you expect to get cravings. You expect to be uncomfortable with swollen feet. And you expect to be pregnant for 40 weeks, or at least close to it. But when all doesn't go as plan, you end up hoping for a miracle. That was … [Continue reading]

5 Tips for Surviving the Holidays in the NICU


Holidays are the best time of the year.  Spending time with family and everyone gathered together and just having a good time.  But what happens when the holidays get turned upside down and you wind up in the hospital with a little one? Kendall’s … [Continue reading]