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The Neonatologist and Other Doctors in the NICU

On March 30, National Doctors’ Day, physicians across the country are recognized for their service. As the wife of a surgeon, I thought I understood much about what doctors do. I certainly understood the years of training and sacrifices made by physicians, as well as their families, for the coveted M.D. degree. When my daughter was born too soon, at only 27 weeks gestation, I was quickly thrust into a different role. Even before I gave birth, the neonatologist came to talk to me. It was then that we began a relationship that would span our 79 day NICU stay.

IMG_0587Looking back, the neonatologist was one of the first doctors I saw before my daughter’s birth and one of the last faces I remember on the day we were discharged. When it became obvious that labor could not be stopped, the neonatologist came in to tell me what to expect, what they would do as soon as she was born, etc… She was in the room for delivery and cared for my daughter immediately. I remember her calm demeanor in the midst of the chaos. She also gave me a moment I will treasure forever. After my daughter was bagged and stable, she bundled her up and brought her over for me to hold for a short moment before they whisked her to the NICU. That moment was the only similarity I had with a normal birth.

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Other Mothers (Dedicated to the NICU Nurses Who Helped Save Our Children’s Lives)


On the day my child was born too little, too soon I was not the only mother present in the room Somewhere in the background, I did not realize There stood a group of women, assigned to both our lives They took my baby swiftly, helped add his … [Continue reading]

Do I Have Delayed-Onset PTSD?


It's been over two years since my daughter's traumatic and extremely premature birth, and I’m just now realizing that I might suffer from a form of PTSD. According to the Mayo Clinic, PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) symptoms may start within … [Continue reading]

When You Want More of Their Story


Our bloggers are generous with their stories, opening up their lives to share about their NICU experiences in hopes that it will help other parents going through similar situations. Sometimes, we get comments and messages from our readers asking … [Continue reading]

A NICU Stay Is a Marathon, Not a Sprint


As I cheered on thousands of runners as they passed Hand to Hold’s water stop at the recent Austin Marathon, I was struck by the diversity of the athletes. Runners of every age, ethnicity and ability made up the crowd of 14,000 runners. Some passed … [Continue reading]