Hand to Hold's Official Blog: Written by Parents for Parents

My Fertility Journey with a Uterine Septum


February 10th 2013, the day we found out we were expecting. The same day, one year later, was my first appointment with my fertility specialist.

After my water broke, and I delivered my daughter seven weeks early, I often wondered why. Did I do something wrong? Would it happen again if I were to get pregnant in a few years? Most women who experience preterm labor ask themselves these same questions. Many times there aren’t answers. For me, I didn’t have any answers until my daughter was almost three months old.

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Rewriting the Story of a Partnership After Crisis: NICU Healing

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The day after my son William died, my husband and I went to the hospital to see his twin Elliott in the NICU. We had agreed that being near Elliott would be the only thing that would feel ok that day. We were both mostly silent. I remember feeling … [Continue reading]

What First-Time Parenting Activity Made You Nervous in the NICU?

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Was there a routine, first-time parenting activity in the NICU that made you extremely nervous to perform? Maybe it was changing a diaper, or giving your preemie a bath. Whatever it was, you are in good company. All of us preemie parents have been … [Continue reading]

Finding Friendship in the NICU

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One of the best things that happened to me while my girls were in the NICU was meeting another NICU mom. It's hard to believe anything good can come from the NICU, but it is true. I saw her several times around the NICU and one day my mother … [Continue reading]

‘Your Child is Welcome in Our Nursery.’ Please Say It.


I sat, nervous and emotional, in a room of about a dozen hospital administrators and said, "It would help if you started by telling parents like us, 'Your child is welcome in our nursery.'" They all nodded and I felt like their faces showed I had … [Continue reading]