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Pregnancy After Preterm Birth or Loss

by Felicia Nash, MD, OB/GYN 

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Making the decision to try and conceive after a pregnancy loss or preterm birth involves both emotional and physical health components. Often couples faced with this decision spent agonizing weeks, months or years dealing with the pregnancy and/or NICU stay.

Attend to Your Emotional Health First

Grief counseling is a great idea for families that lose a pregnancy at any gestational age. It is important to address your feelings and be able to have a closure with the previous pregnancy before you make a decision about returning to that arena once again.

Grief counseling can also be helpful for families who have a child who had a lengthy NICU stay – after all, we grieve when our expectations are not completely met. And most of us feel that at the beginning of the pregnancy we can expect to take home a big healthy baby when we are discharged after delivery! Understand also that you will have anxiety with the future pregnancies. You are only human, after all. That is okay to a certain degree, but it is important to share your concerns with your healthcare provider and allow them to reassure you. Also allow your partner and your friends and family to support you during this period of anxiety. [Continue reading]

A Letter to My Doctor

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Dear Trusted Doctor, I knew at 16 weeks. At 18 weeks I spoke up. At 20 weeks I pleaded. At 22 weeks it was too late to stop. Despite aggressive measures at 23 weeks, five days, I cradled two perfectly formed babies in my arms. For two … [Continue reading]

In a Crisis, Communities Save Us

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It’s no secret that our communities are hurting, given the recent national tragedies that have befallen us. Our hearts go out to those affected by these terrible events. I’m reminded of words from the lovable Mister Rogers, a quote that always seems … [Continue reading]

Graduating from Therapy is Possible

The day you get the call your child is coming home from the NICU is one of the best feelings in the world. Then the emotions and realizations set in that my child is coming home, with monitors and cords galore as well as oxygen tanks, and we aren’t … [Continue reading]

RSV 101: What Every NICU Parent Needs to Know

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For most infants, respiratory syncytial (sin-SISH-uhl) virus (RSV) causes an illness like a common cold in the upper and lower respiratory tracts. But some babies, including those born preterm and those with special health care needs, may be at high … [Continue reading]