These next two posts may seem a little out of place following my latest post A Confession because I actually wrote these posts first. Thinking about these posts and being involved in other conversations led to my most recent post. Anyway, here goes:
I was just thinking about the fears I had about getting pregnant again after having my 27-weeker preemie. Mainly, I was concerned that my mother-baby relationship with my next baby would be very different if she was actually born full-term with no problems. I had a very strong connection to my preemie because of the highly involved and emotional circumstances surrounding her birth and months in the NICU. Would my lack of intense involvement with my next baby dampen my relationship with her?
It’s funny to worry that you might love one child more than another, but it’s an understandable concern for parents who’ve had a preemie baby. When my next baby girl was born two days overdue I was simply delighted. I got to hold my new baby in my arms just a couple hours after she was born, I got to nurse her right away, I got to have her next to me in my hospital room during my stay, and I got to take her with me when I went home. She was not connected to monitors or oxygen tubing, and she did not need any daily medications. She was big, she was pink, and she was perfect. It was truly a miracle.
My second daughter is 8 1/2 months old now. I must admit I have not had as much close, quiet, and tender bonding time with her as I did with my preemie. When my preemie was this old (corrected age) I had actually been bonding with her for three months longer! When I was with my preemie it was just me and her. I had no other children calling for my attention or having fun entertaining the baby. Of course I have a special place in my heart for my preemie. We also spent her first two winters quarantined indoors together with very little time apart, if any. We were inseparable.
Continue to Getting Pregnant Again: Part 2