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A Call for Help


That’s the shout out that’s in the heart of every parent who has a tiny preemie baby in the NICU, but you as family and friends may never hear it.  You need to answer the call even if you don’t hear it directly from their lips.  They shouldn’t be on their knees every day begging for help that they desperately need.  They shouldn’t be making phone calls and hoping that they’ll catch someone willing to bring them dinner.  They shouldn’t be thumbing through their list of relatives wondering who would be willing to do their dishes, watch their other kids for a couple of hours, or let them stay the night.  They certainly can’t always be forking out money to pay for babysitters or hotels.  You, the family and close friends, need to be there offering the help before it’s even needed.  You need to show up on the parent’s doorstep with dinner in hand and a few hours of free babysitting arranged for.  You need to arrive at their house armed and ready to scrub toilets and tubs.  You need to be there willingly and you need to sacrifice for their sake.

The point is that it is a difficult and awkward thing to ask for help, even when you need it badly.  With a baby in the hospital, medical bills piling up, and fear and anxiety taking their toll, many parents struggle to the point of desperation and don’t know where to turn.  This is a time when the family needs to pull together to help, and when friends need to be there.

Read NICU Survival Tip #1 and the linked articles to learn how you can help by providing food, shelter, and sleep.

Please leave any comments or thoughts you have on the subject in the comments below.  Thanks.

Afton Mower About Afton Mower

After Mower (UT) lost her firstborn son at 21 weeks.  Her daughter was born a year and a half later at 27 weeks.  The NICU was overwhelming and isolating and it was through those two experiences she was led to found this social hub for parents to find the support they needed. Afton also gave birth to another daughter, born two days overdue after four months of strict bedrest. She believes it is a tender experience to hold a special baby in your arms when his spirit returns to his heavenly home, a miracle to watch tiny babies survive the risks of prematurity and a blessing to hold a healthy full-term baby after months of difficulty and sacrifices.

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