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Aura’s Story

This story was submitted by one of our readers.

I had had a relatively normal pregnancy, despite being under extreme levels of stress due to personal and family tragedies. I was a little bit concerned as I hadn’t gained much weight throughout the pregnancy and at 6 months I was hardly showing at all.

Over the last couple of days before I the unexpected rivals, I became concerned that I hadn’t been feeling the baby kick as much as I was used to. I started getting stomach cramps, that gradually got more painful. I called the Birthing Unit at the hospital and the Midwife and both assured me it must be constipation pains! After the third day, I was in so much pain, coming in bursts. The intervals were getting shorter and shorter, but I never thought it was preterm labor. My partner and I even read our ‘what to expect when expecting’ book and I had all the symptoms, but I just laughed it off. I called the Birthing Unit once more, and they were very rude and told me there was no need to come in. Fortunately, my midwife agreed to meet me at the hospital to examine me herself.

When I got there, the pains were worse then ever and getting shorter apart. My midwife sat with me, examining me, and timing them. Several times she left the room and came back each time visibly upset. I later found out that she had tried several times to alert the staff that I was in labor and for them to come visit me so I could be admitted but they would take her seriously. After about an hour, they finally came to examine me. As soon as I saw the look they exchanged, I was very worried as no one had told me anything at all about what be happening!

They turned around and said I was having my baby right that instant! I was 27 weeks.

They took me to another room, and started preparing me. I literally had no time at all to take in what this meant, and was in complete shock. The nurse performed an ultrasound and she was in a breech position. There were so many doctors and nurses in the room rushing around doing things and I was terrified. I was told I had to have an emergency c section right away and was rushed to surgery where they knocked me out for the operation.

I woke up in a severe amount of pain, disoriented and confused in recovery. The next few things happened in a haze as I was still on heavy drugs. My partner came in. I didn’t even know if our baby had survived but was told she was okay, but was being transferred straight away by NETS helicopter to a hospital 2 hours away where they had more facilities to care for her.

They wheeled her in and I saw her for a few minutes before they took her away. She was tiny, and had wires everywhere. It was another two days before I saw her again as I had to wait to be transferred to the same hospital as her.

We named her Aura Rose. And she was born weighing 895 grams, at 27 weeks. She has now been in the NICU for almost 4 months and still hasn’t come home. Were really hoping to have her home by Christmas but still waiting. She has had a few issues during her stay including having to undergo heart surgery to close an open duct. Feeding intolerance which she is still struggling with at the moment. It has been very hard and still hard but we are hoping and praying for the best

Afton Mower About Afton Mower

After Mower (UT) lost her firstborn son at 21 weeks.  Her daughter was born a year and a half later at 27 weeks.  The NICU was overwhelming and isolating and it was through those two experiences she was led to found this social hub for parents to find the support they needed. Afton also gave birth to another daughter, born two days overdue after four months of strict bedrest. She believes it is a tender experience to hold a special baby in your arms when his spirit returns to his heavenly home, a miracle to watch tiny babies survive the risks of prematurity and a blessing to hold a healthy full-term baby after months of difficulty and sacrifices.

Comments

  1. Im so sorry to hear your story and that your little one is still not home! I had a 24 weeker on June 1 weighing 725 grams. She had the laser surgery and came home at 3 months. It was a hard and long journey! But she will come home! Just keep up the love and hope!! Those little miracles can do wonderous things!! Hang in there mama!! Hoping you will have the best christmas present anyone could ask for this year!!

  2. My 27 weeker, Nyana Rose, was born on Sept 20th. We’re still in the NICU and won’t be home until end of January or early February at the earliest. Hang in there, I know it’s a long road ahead of us but all we can do is one foot in front of the other towards the finish line. Every day in the NICU is a day closer to home.

  3. I am so sorry you are going through this. I had my twins (girl & boy) at 27 weeks, my daughter weighed 2lbs 3oz, and my son weighed 2lbs 1oz. I had severe pre-eclampysia and they had to deliver my twins by emergency C-Section.
    My daugher stayed in the NICU for 65 days my son for 76 days. My son came home on oxgyen but has since been off it for 4 months. They are now 7 months old and are doing great.
    She will come home, it is a long stressful journey but let her know you are there and love her. I hope you get the BEST Christmas Present this year.

  4. I will keep you and your baby girl in my prayers. My daughter was born on christmas day weighing 2lbs4oz. She was there for 37 days which seemed like a lifetime to me. Im praying that you will get to bring your little one home to spend the holidays together as a family.

  5. I had a 27-weeker too. She was in the NICU for five months. She also had a congenital heart defect. I know it seems like it will never end. Hang in there. I hope you have her home sooner than you think.

  6. We had our Leah at 27 weeks 2 days due to HELLP syndrome.

    Born at 1 pound 4.2 ounces on Oct 6th. She is still at the NICU and will be for another 6 weeks.

    Hang in there… It gets better.

  7. Thanks for all your supportive messages guys 🙂
    Its really helped, for those who’s babies are still in the NICU I wish you the best of luck and hope your angels will come home to you soon

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