Hand to Hold's Official Blog: Written by Parents for Parents

A Mother’s Heart: How to Help it Heal After Severe Preeclampsia

It’s been four years, almost to the day, since I gave birth to my preemie at 29 weeks, weighing 2lb 6oz. Nothing at all like the big, bouncing baby boy I had been fantasizing about. Yet, he was the most beautiful, and tiniest, baby I had ever seen. Being rushed by ambulance because severe preeclampsia […]

Your Story is Valid

As a supportive network of NICU parents, we do our best not to compare experiences, but to recognize that everyone’s experience is different, and everyone’s feelings about that experience are completely valid. It seems no matter how long the NICU stay, many of us carry some degree of guilt about not being able to protect our babies.

Each experience is unique to that parent. [Read more]

Imprints Where I Once Saw Scars

A certain peace lies in discovering that the emotional scars of the NICU have faded into imprints of two tiny faces born too soon. [Read more]

Being a NICU parent can be rewarding

I won’t lie, being a NICU parent was hard. I cried a lot. It was also surprisingly rewarding. The longer your baby is in the hospital, the harder it gets. My son, Theo, a 27-weeker, spent over 200 days in the hospital, 120 of them in the NICU. Even though he seemed healthy, Theo still required too much oxygen support to go home and we had to watch countless babies (many born after him) pack up and head home with their families. It was frustrating, but my husband and I made the most out of a lousy situation by expanding our emotional support team and doing self care. [Read more]

Give Me Back my Gratitude

I have been spared many, many other things that deserve not to be overshadowed by the few things I have lost. [Read more]