Hand to Hold's Official Blog: Written by Parents for Parents

Loving My Scars: A Former Preemie’s Story

by Kaylee Gort “How did you get that scar?” a curious child asks. She is referring to the “V” shaped scar on the right side of my stomach, just above my hips. While others have commented that the scar is “weird,” I have never found shame in it. “Are you talking about this one?” I […]

The NICU Window

My son is nearly 15 months old. Some days I look at my busy, clumsy toddler and forget that the NICU ever happened. Other days I remember it like it was yesterday, the memories of our month in the NICU still so vividly alive in my mind. Where we currently live, I drive by the […]

The Hug I Had Been Waiting For

When my son was about a week old, a very patient and wise NICU nurse encouraged me to change my son’s diaper for the first time. I will never forget how my hands shook as we maneuvered wires to delicately dab his tiny bottom with a cotton ball. I have no doubt she could have completed the task in less than a minute, but she took the extra ten minutes to help me have that important bonding experience with my son. It was the first time I truly took part in his daily care. And in many ways, it was our first bonding experience. The hug I had been waiting for. [Read more]

Your Story is Valid

As a supportive network of NICU parents, we do our best not to compare experiences, but to recognize that everyone’s experience is different, and everyone’s feelings about that experience are completely valid. It seems no matter how long the NICU stay, many of us carry some degree of guilt about not being able to protect our babies.

Each experience is unique to that parent. [Read more]

Happy New Year! 2017 is Here!

New years are always filled with the prospects of new possibilities. I always aim to be more productive, more organized, more present. I vow to read more, to write more, to choose creative pursuits over mind-numbing time wasters (although we all need to appreciate the value of a good Netflix binge once in a while). […]