Comments on: Emotional Whirlwind of Baby Loss http://www.preemiebabies101.com/emotional-whirlwind-of-baby-loss/ All about preemie babies and parenting! Mon, 30 Jan 2012 16:05:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Afton Mower http://www.preemiebabies101.com/emotional-whirlwind-of-baby-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-3039 Afton Mower Sat, 07 Jan 2012 20:23:21 +0000 http://www.preemiebabies101.com/?p=235#comment-3039 Cambria, I'm so sorry for your loss. It's such a hard thing to go through - especially when you were given promises and then those promises were ignored. I've discovered that one of the most difficult things for me to bear is to have expectations, and then those expectations are dismissed. How horrible that they told you they would try to save your baby and then they didn't! I hope you can find some peace, or that you can hold on to belief that what happened with your baby was God's will. Hang in there and my only advice is to not dwell on the "what ifs" but to focus on the blessing that your son can be in your life by giving you experience and understanding that you would not have had otherwise. It's been 7 1/2 years now since my boy died and I still find comfort and peace in the experience I had with him. Such difficult experiences can drag us down in misery and bitterness, or we can make ourselves better people because of them and then use our newfound understanding and appreciation for life to help others who face similar sorrows. Hang in there. I pray that peace will come to you. Cambria, I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s such a hard thing to go through – especially when you were given promises and then those promises were ignored. I’ve discovered that one of the most difficult things for me to bear is to have expectations, and then those expectations are dismissed. How horrible that they told you they would try to save your baby and then they didn’t! I hope you can find some peace, or that you can hold on to belief that what happened with your baby was God’s will. Hang in there and my only advice is to not dwell on the “what ifs” but to focus on the blessing that your son can be in your life by giving you experience and understanding that you would not have had otherwise. It’s been 7 1/2 years now since my boy died and I still find comfort and peace in the experience I had with him.

Such difficult experiences can drag us down in misery and bitterness, or we can make ourselves better people because of them and then use our newfound understanding and appreciation for life to help others who face similar sorrows.

Hang in there. I pray that peace will come to you.

]]> By: Cambria Abbott http://www.preemiebabies101.com/emotional-whirlwind-of-baby-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-3038 Cambria Abbott Sat, 07 Jan 2012 10:44:04 +0000 http://www.preemiebabies101.com/?p=235#comment-3038 Your story captures all of my feelings. My baby boy died four months ago at 22 weeks. My feelings are still quite raw, I didn't even know that it is possible to go back through different stages of grief. I use to think I was a rational person but I can't get ahold of myself, I am so confused. My heart is broken. The nicu dr. Said that when Cameron was born that they would try to help him if we wanted them to, my husband and I agreed that we wanted them to just try. When Cameron was born no nurses rushed around she just sat there on the bed. I pleaded with her to please just do something! I knew the chances but we did all agree that they would TRY to help Cameron. No one did anything and all I am left with is this helpless feeling. Your story captures all of my feelings. My baby boy died four months ago at 22 weeks. My feelings are still quite raw, I didn’t even know that it is possible to go back through different stages of grief. I use to think I was a rational person but I can’t get ahold of myself, I am so confused. My heart is broken. The nicu dr. Said that when Cameron was born that they would try to help him if we wanted them to, my husband and I agreed that we wanted them to just try. When Cameron was born no nurses rushed around she just sat there on the bed. I pleaded with her to please just do something! I knew the chances but we did all agree that they would TRY to help Cameron. No one did anything and all I am left with is this helpless feeling.

]]> By: Susan http://www.preemiebabies101.com/emotional-whirlwind-of-baby-loss/comment-page-1/#comment-3026 Susan Sun, 11 Dec 2011 22:36:58 +0000 http://www.preemiebabies101.com/?p=235#comment-3026 Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my twin boys at 21weeks, 2 days over a year ago. I still feel like it was yesterday, and I still miss them every day - I always will. Sending hugs your way. Thank you for sharing your story. I lost my twin boys at 21weeks, 2 days over a year ago. I still feel like it was yesterday, and I still miss them every day – I always will. Sending hugs your way.

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