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Farewell & Upcoming Changes

Dear Readers,

I started this blog a number of years ago with the hope that I could help some other preemie parents by sharing my personal experiences. It was therapeutic for me to write about my experiences having preemie babies, and I have appreciated the many parents who have shared their stories and supported my efforts. In the process of running this blog I have shed many tears for the heartaches and difficulties many of you have faced. I have tried to be honest and helpful in all of my responses, both through personal emails and those that were posted on the blog.

I have a deep love and compassion for preemie babies and parents of preemies. My surviving preemie is growing up and has almost outgrown her preemie-ness. She’s beautiful and healthy and I pray that your preemies will also grow up to be healthy and happy children, and capable, confident adults.

I want to thank all of you for letting me share some of my life with you and for the many compliments I have received on the helpfulness of my site. Many of the posts and stories have been contributed by you, my readers, and I could not have touched so many lives without your stories and your help spreading the word.

Thankfully, this site will live on! Since I feel I have run out of things to say, and I’m focusing on new developments in my family, I have decided to donate this site to “Hand to Hold” a nonprofit organization dedicated to providing support to parents of preemies. New authors will take over the blog and continue to provide information and experiences for your benefit, and I believe the URL will stay the same. The site will soon receive a face lift and introductions will be made by those taking over. I pray that Preemie Babies 101 will always be helpful in addressing the questions and concerns of preemie parents and that it will provide a hub for preemie parents to communicate with one another and support one another.

With love and continued prayers for all of you,

Afton Mower


Afton Mower About Afton Mower

After Mower (UT) lost her firstborn son at 21 weeks.  Her daughter was born a year and a half later at 27 weeks.  The NICU was overwhelming and isolating and it was through those two experiences she was led to found this social hub for parents to find the support they needed. Afton also gave birth to another daughter, born two days overdue after four months of strict bedrest. She believes it is a tender experience to hold a special baby in your arms when his spirit returns to his heavenly home, a miracle to watch tiny babies survive the risks of prematurity and a blessing to hold a healthy full-term baby after months of difficulty and sacrifices.


  1. Lorie Call says:

    Just found this today, and am now catching up with what you’ve shared online. Please drop me an e-mail so that we can continue together on a different topic altogether. Thanks so very much!


  2. Hi Afton, Just read your story and it touched my heart. I am a mother of a strong hearted micro preemie who has fought for her life since she was inside me. I have had five children which only two are living so it is very difficulkt for me to write this and not tear up. My first born made it at 35 weeks she now is 10 years old and is a very healthy girl and smart which they told me she might have issues with her development well she beat that. God has the last word not the nurses or Dr’s. My other three are in heaven two which are boys and one is a girl which they all died before the gestation age of 20 weeks. one was 9 weeks, the other 18 1/2weeks and the other one was 16 weeks. Well my micro preemie almost did not make it to the 20 week either if it wasnt for my history that I told my Perinatologist who told me that it was incompentent cervix I hate it because it killed my babies by letting them go from me. But my dr had me go on bed rest no work just the restroom, shower and eat. After he noticed that even then it was still opening up after the cerglage they put me on full bed reast which meant me live at the hospital which meant no birthday parties no spending time with my daughter and husband, or family, or her school events, it was hard but worth every minute. They helped me keep her in for a couple more weks which she was 25 weeks and 5 days weighin in at 785grams 12 inches long. She stayed in the NICU from September 28th 2014to December 21 2014 might as well say we stayed in the NICU all that time I only missed 2 days because I was not feeling well other than that I was there every day. I cried and laughed, I had mixed emotions because I could not deal with all this I did not know if I was a mother or not because I would leave empty handed each day. My baby Girl Victoria which I named her because she fought so hard she is Victorius, and like me her mother we share something in common which was fighitng for our lives not to die not to give up and to this date I am a fighter and determined woman. Now she is going to be 6 months on the 28 but looks like a new born the challanges have just begun for Victoria and her family. I wanted to share a little of my story. I feel so bad for your first lost however your baby is in heaven resting and watching over all of you may God bless you and thank you for sharing your story. my Best Adriana

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