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Help Parents Find Shelter

Shelter is an important need, for obvious reasons.  If your friend or loved one has a preemie in a NICU near where you live then please, please open your doors to them!  Offer to let them move in for a few weeks if need be, or let them know that they can stop in any time.  Be sure to offer it before they have the chance to ask you for it, and never, EVER, let them know that it’s an inconvenience for you.  If you are able, provide them with meals when they’re around and offer rides to and from the hospital if they don’t have their own transportation, or even if they do (it will help them save gas money).  Don’t ask for anything in return for your hospitality, but be grateful that you are in a position to help and serve your friend or loved one.  They will be eternally grateful and eager to help you in your time of need.

If your friend or loved one does stay with you for a time and they don’t act supremely grateful, or if they come and go at odd hours of the day and night, please be thoughtful, patient, and supportive of their needs. Remember, their whole life is balancing on fear, anxiety, the unknown, and all the hope they can muster.

If you do not live in a place where you can open the doors of your home, then money given (not lent) to pay for motels would be hugely appreciated.  Please, do anything in your power to support your loved one, even if you’re not entirely sure they need your help.  As a preemie parent, the knowledge alone that people know your situation and are willing to make sacrifices on your behalf gives you comfort and courage.  Many people think needs are only physical, but you have emotional, mental, and spiritual needs as well.  Remember this as you are looking for ways to help.

Related Posts: Help Parents Get Sleep, Help Parents Eat Well, A Call for Help, NICU Survival Tip #1

Afton Mower About Afton Mower

After Mower (UT) lost her firstborn son at 21 weeks.  Her daughter was born a year and a half later at 27 weeks.  The NICU was overwhelming and isolating and it was through those two experiences she was led to found this social hub for parents to find the support they needed. Afton also gave birth to another daughter, born two days overdue after four months of strict bedrest. She believes it is a tender experience to hold a special baby in your arms when his spirit returns to his heavenly home, a miracle to watch tiny babies survive the risks of prematurity and a blessing to hold a healthy full-term baby after months of difficulty and sacrifices.

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