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I’m Thankful for My Preemies


I couldn’t resist writing a tribute to my sweet preemies and my amazing husband this week in honor of Thanksgiving.  As difficult as it was to have my 21-weeker and lose him shortly after his birth, and then to have a 27-weeker and spend over 3 months in the NICU, I am so thankful for my tiny miracles and for a husband who held me close through it all.

The experiences I had surrounding my son’s birth and death are very precious memories for me.  The spirit that accompanied his tiny little body was so sweet and innocent that I could feel nothing but peace in his presence.  I never imagined I would have such strength in the face of death, but knowing I would be with my baby again brought me great joy.  I’m grateful that I was given that experience so I could mature and deepen my understanding of life and my purpose on earth.

The birth and ensuing months of my little 27-weeker brought many more difficult challenges that I had to face.  I never imagined that I would look back on that time and feel a sense of homesickness, I guess, for those few months.  But it was a time when I was brought down to my knees in humility, and a time when I had to draw on every bit of physical and emotional strength I had to keep going.  I was given an opportunity to learn about the medical field and be a part of it in a way I never imagined I could do before.  My appreciation for time with my husband and daughter was immense and I have been grateful for every single day since that I’ve been able to be together with my family and in good health.  I know I will never take my children for granted and I will never take our health for granted, especially my preemie’s health.

My wonderful husband continued to be strong through everything and he has always let me cry on his shoulder.  I could never have survived these experiences on my own.  Even though my husband was also in pain, he made huge sacrifices so that I could be with my preemie in the NICU and he kept working to care for me and our family.  I’m so thankful for the strength we have gained from the experiences we’ve shared together.

Now, take a moment.  What are you thankful for this Thanksgiving season?

Afton Mower About Afton Mower

After Mower (UT) lost her firstborn son at 21 weeks.  Her daughter was born a year and a half later at 27 weeks.  The NICU was overwhelming and isolating and it was through those two experiences she was led to found this social hub for parents to find the support they needed. Afton also gave birth to another daughter, born two days overdue after four months of strict bedrest. She believes it is a tender experience to hold a special baby in your arms when his spirit returns to his heavenly home, a miracle to watch tiny babies survive the risks of prematurity and a blessing to hold a healthy full-term baby after months of difficulty and sacrifices.


  1. Hmmm I’m thankful for a lot. My baby was a perfect preemie. From 3 to 10 lbs in 12 weeks! It’s really a blessing in disguise I think, he’s healthy and cute and just my ideal baby. I’m thankful for all the gifts and prayers too. Never could I have imagined all the support I/ we received.

    (Nov 25, 09)

  2. We are also so thankful to have a “perfect preemie”. She was born at 25 weeks and 1 day. Beginning her little life at only 1lb 14oz, and 13 inches long …(now 23 lbs!!) spending every minute in the NICU with her for over 3 months…just watching her grow and gain strength…all the ups and downs (we had SO MANY!) …now we have our little miracle… See More and shes already a year old! She was finally taken off O2…and cleared by both her cardiologist and eye Dr. At this point has no long term effects from her extreem prematurity. SHE IS A TRUELY A BLESSING FROM GOD! My husband and I are so thankful for her, the NICU nurses and Dr’s, our families, and all who prayed for her!

    (Nov 25, 09)

    • jennifer sicignano says:

      God Bless YOU and your FAMILY !! I was keeping up with a family that was expecting their fisrt baby due in February 2015 and suddenly the mom became ill went to sleep and didn’t wake up the next morning. the father called paramedics and they were able to get her to the hospital and deliver the 24 week old premeeie in hopes of saving his life, the mom later died in her sleep after the delivery. The baby ended up passing away too four days later. He weighted 2lbs 4oz I think that’s a pretty good weight for a 24wk old preemie. I don’t understand why he died though, they said decreased brain activity and lack of fetal movement. But he was urinating and gained a few ounces . So I can only think that either a stage 3 or 4 brain bleed, or lack of oxygen from the mom when she was unconscious . What do you think might have caused the baby to pass he was 24weeks and six days old gestation when born and weighted 2lbs 4ounces he passed at 25weeks and two days old . thank you and congrats to you and your family..

      • Jennifer, I don’t know what would have caused the baby to pass away, but this is exactly the same scenario we are going thru right now. My grandBaby was 31 weeks 3 days and is 3 lbs she is 2 days old now and doing good. I hope she continues to grow and gain weight. God bless you and Merry christmas

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