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Interview – Preeclampsia & Gallstones: Part 3

Q.     Did your baby go home on anything? (oxygen, medications, g tube, fortified breastmilk, etc.)
A.      An Apnea monitor.  Not fun to carry around or when it would go off.  At first I didn’t mind so much cause it gave me some peace of mind but it only ever went off when it was an error with the machine or when she was screaming bloody murder.  The one good thing about it is that it scared  people away from wanting to hold her so we didn’t have to worry so much about the germs and such from being passed around.

Q.     How were your first few days at home?
A.      I wanted to go home so bad.  They didn’t tell me till about 15 minutes before I checked out that they were keeping my baby.  That was really hard for me.  I cried the whole way home but it was so nice to be home and get a shower and sleep in my bed.  I needed to feel a little normal again but it was so nice to get back to the hospital and see my girl.

Q.     Did your baby have health issues for a long time?
A.      no

Q.     Did you quarantine your baby during RSV Season?  Did your baby stay healthy?
A.      na

Q.     How long did it take for your baby to catch up to normal babies physically?  Mentally?
A.      By 6 months old she had caught up physically.  She was never behind mentally.  She’s 2 now and she’s 100 percentile in height and she’s through the roof cognitively.

Q.     Does your preemie have any permanent disabilities due to prematurity?
A.      no

Q.     How old is your preemie now and do you agree with the statement “born a preemie, always a preemie”?
A.      no

Q.     What do you wish you’d known before you had a preemie baby?
A.      I would’ve liked to have know people near who had had to deal with leaving their babies in the hospital so I could have someone to call and talk to.

Q.     What was the best thing people could do to help you surrounding your baby’s birth and hospital stay?
A.      A lot of people started blowing the situation out of proportion and making people think my daughter was struggling for her life.  The other thing that was really hard is that people would keep asking when she would get to come home.  I had gotten my hopes up a few times and then had them broken so I finally realized that it didn’t matter when she came home but that she’d come home when she was ready and she was in the best place for her for the time being.  The stresses outside the hospital were enormous but once I was at the hospital with my baby they all went away.  The family nearby started taking the phone calls of people calling to check on me and the baby so I wouldn’t have to worry about that added stress.  What I needed most, and my husband was great at, was the support to make it through it all and be the best mommy I could be for my daughter.

Q.     Do you have any advice/suggestions for new preemie parents?
A.      Breathe!  Spend quality time with your baby and love them no matter what.  Focus on the good and try to focus on positives.  If the outside world is stressing you out try to turn off as much of it as you can.  Just be there for your baby.

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Afton Mower About Afton Mower

After Mower (UT) lost her firstborn son at 21 weeks.  Her daughter was born a year and a half later at 27 weeks.  The NICU was overwhelming and isolating and it was through those two experiences she was led to found this social hub for parents to find the support they needed. Afton also gave birth to another daughter, born two days overdue after four months of strict bedrest. She believes it is a tender experience to hold a special baby in your arms when his spirit returns to his heavenly home, a miracle to watch tiny babies survive the risks of prematurity and a blessing to hold a healthy full-term baby after months of difficulty and sacrifices.

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