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Preemie Mother’s Oath

I spotted this today on Veronica’s Journey, and wanted to share it with all of you.  I think it speaks to the struggle all of us have endured as NICU parents, and the strength we found within ourselves – that we didn’t know was there.

Preemie Mother’s Oath

I have sat in the NICU and waited.
I have cried and prayed.
I have endured.

Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover.
I will marvel at my surviving miracle every day for the rest of my life.

I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to a nurse taking another temperature, an alarm going off, another round of meds or because I am crying tears for fear of the unknown.
I will be happy because my baby is alive and crying out for me.

I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.

Whether I parent a preemie with physical challenges or medical issues, I will not be careless with my love.

I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.

I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body.
I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.

I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.

So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.

I listen.

And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immense power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.

I have learned to appreciate life.

Yes, I will be a wonderful mother.

– Author Unknown

Aimee Sprik About Aimee Sprik

Aimee Sprik (IL) is mother to Connor, born unexpectedly early at 26 weeks, in December 2008, due to an infection. Connor, with his parents, survived a complicated 120-day NICU stay, which changed their lives forever. Since bringing her son finally home, she's felt passionately about volunteering her time and resources to supporting fellow NICU parents, both at the hospital where Connor was born, and by co-founding Life after NICU, an online parent support forum now moderated by Hand to Hold. You can follow Aimee on her personal blog, Sprik Space, or send her an email.


  1. LOVE this!!!! Thank you so much for sharing!

  2. LOVE LOVE LOVE!!! Thank you <3

  3. Anonymous says:

    WOw!! That was amazing and brought me to tears 🙂

  4. Anonymous says:

    Really hits home for me, thanks for the share.

  5. Got this day off to a great start today, thanks to this. Now headed to the NICU, thank you.

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  7. After 95 days in the NICU we came home this past Spring. This is so touching–such an honest, straight-forward truth of a NICU parent. Thanks for sharing!

  8. Wow that is the truth everything made perfect sense

  9. so want to steal it and print it. frame it and hang in my daughters room

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