Hand to Hold's Official Blog: Written by Parents for Parents

When Hello Means Goodbye

“I’m so sorry.” The beginning of what was about to be a life changing moment for me. Hearing those words from the ultrasound technician caused instant tears. My heart stopped. The next words tore me apart from the inside: “You’re baby’s heart is not beating anymore.” How could this be? What did I do wrong? […]

Kate’s Story of Loss & Personalized Book GIVEAWAY

When Sam died, I remember feeling so utterly alone – like I was the only person in the world that this could possibly have happened to. My connection with other baby loss parents from all over the world, made me realise, that this wasn’t true – that there were families in every corner of the globe trying to wade through the same murky waters of grief. [Read more]

Learning the Language of Grief: Telling a Twinless Twin About Their Twin

My son woke up tonight from a nightmare. He told me his best friend was dead. As a parent of a twinless twin, the symbolism was very difficult for me. A best friend. Dead. Could the image in his nightmare have been his brother? How do you go about telling a little boy that there […]

Mourning a Loss That Doesn’t Quite Have a Name: Grief and Loss in the NICU

I think it’s safe to say it’s happened to most of us NICU parents. That piercing feeling, almost like a knife inside, that strikes when you least expect it; in fact, when you’re likely to feel the most ashamed and/or hurt by it. When you see a pregnant woman striding down the street, clearly weeks later […]

Honest Grief: From Being Strong To Being Real

In the six and a half years since my 14 month old daughter died, I have read numerous books about losing a baby, grief, grief recovery, spirituality and grief, the stages of grief (they don’t exist) and so on. I’ve read stories of mothers who lost babies, young children and adult children. Husbands who lost […]