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10 Embarrassing Things Said by a NICU Dad

Our micropreemie, Zoey, was born at 24 weeks. She was our first child, so we were launched into the NICU with lots of questions and very different approaches to parenting. There are certain stand-out moments that in retrospect I appreciate, but at the time, I was embarrassed by them. Here are ten of the most […]

When I Knew I Was A Father

A reflection on a dad’s experience in the NICU, and the moment he realized that he was truly a father. [Read more]

{Professional Insight} Postpartum Depression & PTSD in Fathers

This post is the first installment in a three-part series on PPD and PTSD in NICU parents. Visit part 2 of the series: Postpartum Depression after a Complicated Delivery, and part 3: Postpartum PTSD: How to Manage a Traumatic Birth Experience. We spend a lot of time talking about the postpartum wellbeing of moms. But fathers are […]

The Night I Met My Son

The night I met my son will forever live in my mind as one of the scariest, loneliest, yet happiest nights of my life.

My wife gave birth to our first child more than 100 days before he was supposed to be born. I wasn’t even mentally prepared to be a dad, even though we planned the pregnancy and had a due date. I just figured I had more time to get ready, but I was wrong. At six o’clock in the evening, I was eating dinner and getting ready to play softball when my wife came home in tears. By 7:33 that night, our son was born. So much happened in those 90 minutes, it is still hard to believe. I experienced fear, anger, anxiety, frustration, sorrow and the thought that I might lose my son and my wife on a hot summer night in which I was supposed to be playing a game instead of contemplating starting my life over. [Read more]

Through the Eyes of a Father

When you get a phone call from the hospital telling you that they are going to transfer your wife and deliver your twins 3 months early, everything stops.  The next thing I know, I’m leaving work and on my way back to the hospital.  Melissa was pretty out of it when I got there and […]