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Finding Hope in the NICU: National Doctors’ Day

On March 30, National Doctors’ Day, physicians across the country are recognized for their work. I always had an appreciation for doctors and their ability to see the big picture as well as the important details, but I never knew how much a doctor could change my life until my son was born four months early.

It was 11 o’clock at night when I first met my son’s neonatologist. When he approached us, I bombarded him with questions. Worry and anxiety spewed from my mouth and heart with an intensity that intimidated even me.

As I questioned the doctor, I peered through the plastic walls of the isolette at the smallest baby I had ever seen. [Read more]

Looking Back on Five Years

Five years ago my husband I looked over scans on the computer screens and became well versed in the anatomy and conditions of our little boys. You could say we had a crash course in neonatology, and at that time I worried many of my dreams and ideals for my babies may never occur, yet we had high hopes and knew we could take on whatever came our way. [Read more]

Embracing Posttraumatic Growth: Is Growth Possible After Trauma?

After the NICU, as we assessed what still stood around us, what hadn’t changed dramatically or crumbled in our lives, I wondered how the experience would affect my story, our story, the story of our family. Did this trauma mean that we would become a sad story? Our lives a tragedy? Would our lives forever be shifted into the shadow of grief? [Read more]

10 Things Martin Luther King, Jr. Would Tell a NICU Parent

Today, in honor of Martin Luther King, Jr. day, I thought it would be appropriate to revisit the words of this wise man. Think about it… what would he tell us NICU parents if he were still alive today? Probably the same things he said all those years ago… *Note: I realize that these words were spoken […]

Hope During a Medical Crisis

I was keeping hope that it would be good news; our family didn’t need another medical crisis. But when the doctor called that day, my heart sank. It isn’t a good sign to get results from a brain MRI almost immediately. People told me to “stay positive” and “be thankful.” But you know what?  “Staying positive” didn’t seem possible for […]