Hand to Hold's Official Blog: Written by Parents for Parents

Am I A Mother?

Isabella 23 week preemie

This question echoed in my mind. In the days after my daughter’s premature birth, I often wondered if I could call myself a mother. It sounds a little silly now, but back then it was a very real question. I was unable to do motherly things like breast feed and snuggle my newborn or even [...]

{Printables} Mother’s Day in the NICU

Home is Where Your Mom Is

Mother’s Day during or after a baby’s stay in the neonatal intensive care unit is a milestone celebrated with joy and tears. So many emotions accompany the decision to have a child, to become a mother and to weather the storm that accompanies a baby’s hospital stay or loss. When words are not adequate to [...]

Ways to Celebrate the NICU mom on Mother’s Day

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From the moment I first laid eyes on my tiny one pounder baby girl, I wrestled with many emotions that caused me to question whether or not I deserved to be a mom. Of course, I did everything ‘right’. I took prenatals, ate right, and followed the doctor’s instructions when she put me on hospital [...]

Hello, My Name is Guilt

My first Mother's Day. Also Day 63 of Tucker's NICU stay. We got to take off his CPAP gear for 2 minutes of this picture.

I pushed the elevator button for the 7th floor. The doors opened, we stepped off and started the familiar walk past the waiting area of balloons and flowers. We didn’t need to stop at the receptionist desk, they knew us. We stopped giving our parent code two months ago. We did not have to show our hospital bracelets. The [...]

Doing the NICU More Than Once

take home day NICU

With my history of premature labor, scarred tissue, a classical c-section… the list could go on… we almost knew that our last child, Evie, would be another early arrival. And she was. She was born two days before New Year’s Eve last year. She came five weeks early, after trying everything under the sun (including [...]

A Mother’s Ramblings on Cerebral Palsy

Bryce Contemplating CP

There are so many misconceptions when it comes to Cerebral Palsy.  Most often it seems people assume that when you say your child has CP that means that they aren’t intelligent or that they are completely wheelchair bound. While this is the case for many living with CP, there are also many who struggle in [...]

When the Geneticist Gave us Bad News

Luke, PB101

“So, it’s possible your son has Meckel-Gruber Syndrome. But, I’m not 100% positive.” Those were the words our son’s geneticist uttered six months ago. She also informed us that while it’s possible he could have it, we couldn’t be sure unless we did further genetic testing (not covered by insurance, of course) that would run [...]

Parenting Both a “Normal” and Special Needs Child

Sisters Elle, 3, and Ava, 5, with Caleb 1 month after he was born.

For me, the hardest thing about being a parent to a special needs child is watching Caleb, our son who was born with VACTERL, go through what he has gone through: a NICU stay, four surgeries, numerous hospitalizations and ER visits, countless specialist appointments, lab draws, radiology tests, daily medications and treatments, therapy, etc.  All [...]

Loving Away the Challenges

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At one time, I falsely believed that the love I had for my son was not enough. He was born early, contracted an often fatal intestinal disease (necrotizing enterocolitis), spent 44 days in the neonatal intensive care unit and, after further examination, was found to have a myriad of medical anomalies. And I couldn’t fix [...]

Riding the NICU Roller Coaster, Times Three

Avery & Lily waiting for Zoe to come home

If you are familiar with the preemie world, you have most likely heard the NICU experience referred to as a roller coaster.  With all the baby steps forward and the major and minor setbacks along the way, parents often feel as if they are on a hair- raising carnival ride; and much like riding on [...]